Friendship happens on the way to something else. If you "try to meet new people" it feels weird and forced. The more you aim for friendship, the more it eludes you. But if you aim to learn or achieve something with others, friendship happens naturally during the shared pursuit. - James Clear

Never go in search of love, go in search of life, and life will find you the love you seek.

There are two times to admit mistakes: early and late. Early admissions solve problems. Late admissions create them. A person who proactively tells another they made a mistake gains trust and respect for their honesty. In contrast, one who tries to hide errors quickly loses trust. Swift admissions build bridges. Slow ones burn them.

Without communication, there is no relationship. Without respect there is no love, without trust there’s no reason to continue.

You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.

On the purpose of business, David Packard in 1960 said: “I think many people assume, wrongly, that a company exists simply to make money. While this is an important result of a company’s existence, we have to go deeper and find the real reasons for our being. As we investigate this, we inevitably come to the conclusion that a group of people get together and exist as an institution that we call a company so they are able to accomplish something collectively which they could not accomplish separately. They are able to do something worthwhile — they make a contribution to society.”

If you can’t explain to a six year old, you don’t understand it yourself.

You can carve out a very good career simply by being the most reliable person on the team. You would not think that always showing up on time, hitting every deadline, and responding quickly and professionally to all communication would be such a differentiator, but these traits are always in short supply. - James Clear

I kept my idea a secret from anyone who could not directly help to move it forward. That was my gut instinct at the time, but it’s now one of the best pieces of advice I have to give. Ideas are the most vulnerable at the moment you have them; that’s also the time people are most inclined to run around seeking validation from everyone they know. Discouraging remarks will likely take you off course. You’ll either end up deflated or spend your time defending your idea instead of going for it.— Sarah Blakely

Get in the details and create less work, create one stream of consciousness. - Brian Chesky on how being in the details paradoxically creates less work for him.

Extreme Ownership: Leaders must own everything in their world. There is no one else to blame. - Jocko Willink

"Travel makes one modest. You see what a tiny place you occupy in the world." - Gustav Flaubert

This is the real secret of life…to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play. - Alan Watts

Change is the only constant. - Elliott Fisher

When it gets down to having to use violence, then you are playing the system’s game. The establishment will irritate you - pull your beard, flick your face - to make you fight. Because once they’ve got you violent, then they know how to handle you. The only thing they don’t know how to handle is non-violence and humor. - John Lennon

Never underestimate the power of a small group of committed people to change the world. - Margaret Mead

We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us. - Joseph Campbell

Live music is the antidote to my perpetual discontent  - trey at Carnegie 2019

It’s not what you do in life, but by how you do it.

“Your mind is programmable - if you’re not programming your mind, someone else will program it for you.” Human beings are programmable, much like computers. Like a computer if a human being has a bad “file system format” (conditions during a child’s formative years), a bad operating system (culture), and bad “software programs” (erroneous, ridged and dogmatic believes), their “output” (behavior) one the screen (life) will also be bad, and will contribute to deteriorating conditions on a mass scale. Like a computer, the behavior of a human being will largely depend upon its programming (the equality of the information put into it, which enables it to process and create efficiently). Garbage in : Garbage out…Quality In: Quality out

Queer people don’t grow up as ourselves, we grow up playing a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation & prejudice. The massive task of our adult lives is to unpick which parts of ourselves are truly us & which parts we’ve created to protect us. - Alexander Leon

In a world deluged with irrelevant information, clarity is power. - Yuval Harari

A bit of advice given to a young Native American at the time of his initiation: ‘As you go the way of life, you will see a great chasm…Jump. It’s not as wide as you think. - Joseph Campbell

The important thing is this: to be ready at any moment to sacrifice what you are for what you are to become. - Charles Dubois

And then there is the most dangerous risk of all — the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later. - Randy Kosimar

If you don’t go after what you want, you will never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no. If you don’t step forward, you will remain in the same place.

One becomes a painter by painting - Van Gogh

The longer the time frame for results, the less you need intensity and the more you need consistency. Consistency isn't simply willpower, which comes and goes. Consistency is doing it when you don't feel like doing it.

David Bowie, Himself : Always remember that the reason that you initially started working was that there was something inside yourself that you felt that if you can manifest it in some way, you would understand more about yourself and how you co-exist with the rest of society.

An email from Coach Sommer I [Tim Ferris] revisits often:

Patience. Far too soon to expect strength improvements. Strength improvements [for a movement like this] take a minimum of 6 weeks. Any perceived improvements prior to that are simply the result of improved synaptic facilitation. In plain English, the central nervous system simply became more efficient at that particular movement with practice. This is, however, not to be confused with actual strength gains.

Dealing with the temporary frustration of not making progress is an integral part of the path towards excellence. In fact, it is essential and something that every single elite athlete has had to learn to deal with. If the pursuit of excellence was easy, everyone would do it.

In fact, this impatience in dealing with frustration is the primary reason that most people fail to achieve their goals. Unreasonable expectations timewise, resulting in unnecessary frustration, due to a perceived feeling of failure. Achieving the extraordinary is not a linear process.

The secret is to show up, do the work, and go home.

And accept that quality long-term results require quality long-term focus. No emotion. No drama. No beating yourself up over small bumps in the road. Learn to enjoy and appreciate the process. This is especially important because you are going to spend far more time on the actual journey than with those all too brief moments of triumph at the end.

Throw out a timeline. It will take what it takes.

Change. But start slowly, because direction is more important than speed. - Paulo Coelho

Maybe the journey isn’t about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t relaly you, so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. - Paulo Coelho